Okay then. I drive a Crosstrek, and I'm very happy with it for a daily driver. It's no bigger than the RAV4, but it's lighter by 300-400lbs (lighter than most of the other CUVs too) so the power difference probably won't be much, and a lighter car will handle better all things being equal. The all terrain tires look great, but handle like shit on the pavement. Best money I've spent is on good ultra high performance all season tires that are still snow rated, and still have a 50k tread life warranty. It completely changed the car on the pavement and made it much more fun to drive. I wouldn't mind some suspension tuning for less body roll since it sits pretty high, but then again I don't really want to dump a bunch of money into it as I don't plan on keeping it more than four more years or so. Not because I don't like it, but because I put a lot of miles on the road for work, and it'll be time for a new car. Besides, my niece already called dibs on it too. :mrgreen:
It's a shame that Subaru dropped the WRX 5 door, as that would fit your bill almost perfectly other than ground clearance, but that's cheaper to fix than getting more power out of something that doesn't have it. Any of the FA20 powered Subies are fine if you don't tinker with it much, but don't like much over 350-400HP before things start letting go without a lot of money put into the internals, at least from what I've read.
I'm not trying to convince you on the Crosstrek. But, it's rare for me to still be mostly happy with a car after a year of ownership. I've usually nitpicked it to death at that point. But I really do like my Crosstrek, mostly. It does everything I need, is surprisingly fun to drive in the twisties for what it is, it's the most sure footed car I've ever owned in heavy rain (and we get lots of it), and is incredible in the snow even on ultra hipo all seasons. And returns an average of about 27mpg around town, and 30-32 on the highway here in the mountains. I can't ask for more than that for the buy in price.