Damn Jato I'm sorry to hear about this, I'm so glad you're still with us!
Thank you, sir!
Damn, sure am glad to hear you have a good woman there to keep bring ya back buddy. I hear that white light is an invitation.
I hear your wise words. Life truly is short and unforgiving. The future is now. Gotta live and love it up.
...and build tiny trucks.
Thank you! Yeah the white light made it scary. I never want to leave this place because I don't want to be without my girlfriend. As sappy as that sounds, it's the truth. She deserves at least some credit for pushing me back towards health twice now.
I've become such a sap, but meeting a good woman is the best thing that can happen to a man. I truly believe that now. If it wasn't for my late girlfriend and my current girlfriend, I probably wouldn't be here. I never expected, planned, nor behaved to live past the age of 40.
I waited later in life than most to seriously date because I had grown up surrounded by so many bad relationships where most married couples were unhappy, talked negatively about marriage and/or relationships, the man was controlled by the woman or, to a lesser extent, the woman was controlled by the man, and most of them ended in divorce. I wanted no parts of that misery and lack of freedom. This was especially true when the first 22 years of my life weren't completely free because I was held back by health issues.
Then I was lucky enough to meet my late girlfriend who opened my eyes and showed me what unconditional love and devotion is. To find a good woman is lucky, but to find one willing to deal with me, my attitude, my selfishness, my arrogant, cocky, asshole of a self, and the fact that "growing old with me" probably isn't a reality is a HUGE ask. When she passed away, I thought my dating days were over.
Once the gaping hole in my heart and soul healed, I quickly met my new girlfriend and from the second date I felt she was "The One". I still feel that way. I always thought "when you know you know" was corny bullshit until I experienced it. I've never been so in awe, so head over heels, and so infatuated with a woman. To meet yet another amazing woman who is devoted, loving, super-intelligent, and willing to stick with me through this terrifying incident, and knowing future battles lay ahead, is beyond lucky. And she is good for me because, while she loves that I'm the most confident person she's ever met (her words not mine), she isn't afraid to knock me down a few pegs and bring me back to reality when I need it. More importantly, she pushes me to be a better person and to take care of myself for me first, for her, for her son, and for my family.
Her mom was the biggest naysayer in the beginning of our relationship because of the odds stacked against me. She worries for my girlfriend and for her grandson. But after getting to know me and realizing my intentions are pure and I'm 100% in this, she has become one of my biggest fans. It's pretty cool because my girlfriend was most worried about the two of us butting heads. We're both "strong-willed" and stubborn. And we may still butt heads in the future, but I think we'll be OK.
And now I'm just bragging about my girlfriend and rambling on so I'll finish with this...
These days I tell all the young guys (and girls) to demand what they want from the other person in a relationship. Don't settle for less because somebody out there will be willing to give you want you want and need to be happy. But if you settle, then people will only be as good and treat you only as well as you expect. I always remind young guys that a good woman will change your life and make it better, but a bad one will ruin your life.
Man that some scary sh@$! Glad to hear you are ok and on the mend.
Sounds like we are having the same kinda year. I too was in the hospital at the same time you were. Luckily I only spent a week in there. I had a Cologuard test come back positive for colon cancer. Definitely not what I wanted to hear. Luckily my team of doctors moved quick and cut that section of colon out. Good news after that was I was cancer free.
Life is short and can turn on a dime. Life changing events sure do make you see things differently.
Glad to see you back on here Tim!
Thank you!
I saw you were laid up as well. I'm glad you caught that early and got it taken care of! I hope you're fully healed.