So I just got back from visiting my son's teacher...

[JasonInAugusta]

Jeff is in Kindergarten. He was four when he started, turned five in September. Just squeaked into this year's class with his birth date.

Over the past couple of weeks Jeff has come home with notes from the teacher.

The first one said that he "spanked" another kid at lunch with his (soft-sided) lunchbox.

I asked Jeff why he did it and he told me that the kid hit him first.

I told him "No big deal. If someone hits you it's OK to defend yourself. Just don't hit someone because you're mad, that's not nice."

"OK", he says.

Last Thursday he comes home with another note from his teacher...

"Jeff slapped a kid in the face today."

So we had the conversation again.

"Jeff, why'd you slap this kid?"

Jeff didn't say anything, just stayed quiet. I figured this was a situation where Jeff was in the wrong since he wouldn't give me an answer.

I told him he was grounded.

So, since Thursday night Mina and I have been talking to Jeff about behaving at school and not getting into trouble. Put him on the bus yesterday morning and reiterated "Jeff, don't get into trouble at school."

He gets home yesterday afternoon and I asked hime how school was. "Good."

"Did you get in trouble today?"

He looked straight at me, "Yes."

I couldn't believe it.

"What did you do?"

"I choked Melvio."

At that point I was like :shock: There's no way I heard that right...

"You did WHAT?"

"I choked Melvio."

Sure enough, I looked in his paperwork and there's a note from the teacher saying that Jeff was choking another kid at lunch and that she wanted to see us.

Sent him to his room for a while then went to talk to him.

Asked him who he hit with the lunch box... "Melvio"

Asked him who he slapped... "Melvio"

Asked him again who he choked... "Melvio"

Asked him why he's doing all of this and he says "Melvio keeps hitting me."

So, after finally getting an answer for why he was choking the other kid, I told him he wasn't grounded.

Went to see the teacher today, had a long talk. She was talking about how it's not like Jeff, etc.

I asked her if she actually SAW Jeff choking this other kid.

"Yeah, I did. I went to get them out of the lunchroom and when I went through the door I see Jeff with this angry look on his face, both hands around Melvio's neck, choking him. I said 'Jeff, what are you doing?' and he looked at me with a straight face and said 'I'm choking him' while continuing to choke Melvio. Both hands around his neck."

I couldn't help it, I was laughing. :lmao:

 

[Mr Glassman]

Nothing wrong with defending yourself"thumbsup"

I don't thimk ou have to worry about kids stealing his lunch money!

 

[wanantrdsc]

I had some kid in 4th grade that used to hit me all the time, and my parents ended up demanded a meeting with the teacher and his parents. Maybe this kid is pulling the same crap, and hitting your son all the time.

Out of curiosity, did your son go to pre-school?

Did you and your wife have a baby just recently?

Is there other problems at home? If the kid isnt hitting him maybe he's taking out his anger, hurt, whatever on this kid. Diverted aggression can be very common. That doesnt mean theres anything wrong with him, you and I do it all the time.

On the flip side, if the kid is being a bully, and your son is defending himself, somethins gotta give. Maybe his dad needs a good butt kickin!

I gotta say, I like how all this is going on, and continuing right in front of the teacher. Why doesnt she stop it right at the beginning? Whats she do, watch the whole thing, and then send the note home? Is she ever paying attention to the other kid? Does she maybe dislike your son? Maybe she and the other kid are of the same ethnicity, and your son is not, so theres a little favoritism.

Gotta agree, pretty funny, its like "what are you doing son"?, "oh Im just chocking him, no worries!". A little girl would have said "nothing daddy!".:lmao:

 

[rmdesignworks]

man dont people get that they need to teach their children better than to fight in school and in classrooms,,i taught mine to catch em on the way home,,,lol,,im with micah,,his lunch money is safe

 

[JasonInAugusta]

I had some kid in 4th grade that used to hit me all the time, and my parents ended up demanded a meeting with the teacher and his parents. Maybe this kid is pulling the same crap, and hitting your son all the time.

Out of curiosity, did your son go to pre-school?

Did you and your wife have a baby just recently?

Is there other problems at home? If the kid isnt hitting him maybe he's taking out his anger, hurt, whatever on this kid. Diverted aggression can be very common. That doesnt mean theres anything wrong with him, you and I do it all the time.

On the flip side, if the kid is being a bully, and your son is defending himself, somethins gotta give. Maybe his dad needs a good butt kickin!

I gotta say, I like how all this is going on, and continuing right in front of the teacher. Why doesnt she stop it right at the beginning? Whats she do, watch the whole thing, and then send the note home? Is she ever paying attention to the other kid? Does she maybe dislike your son? Maybe she and the other kid are of the same ethnicity, and your son is not, so theres a little favoritism.

Gotta agree, pretty funny, its like "what are you doing son"?, "oh Im just chocking him, no worries!". A little girl would have said "nothing daddy!".:lmao:

No problems at home, nothing. Everyone comments that our kids are so well-behaved.

I think the teacher didn't know that each instance involved this Melvio kid because it's all happening at lunch when the kids are in the lunchroom with the lunchroom monitors and the teachers are having lunch in the faculty break room.

When she goes to gather the class and take them back to the classroom she is told by the monitors what's going on...and you you as well as I do that the last half of whatever happened is what gets seen. Very rarely is the inciting incident seen.

But yesterday the teacher walked in and saw with her own eyes that Jeff had his hands around this kid's neck.

 

[wanantrdsc]

Sounds like people at school need to pay more attention. Maybe this other kid is the one with the problem. If things are cool at home, and people comment on how good your kids are, seems strange for a 180 turn at school. Anyone talk to this kid or his parents to find out whats going at that end?

 

[Tupers]

So she said "I went to get them out of the lunchroom", does that mean they where in there unattended?

My little brother got banned from watching the TV last week because he threw a cricket ball at a kid who was winding him up in class. I know my parents where pretty pissed at him but I could help but laugh. :lmao:

 

[JasonInAugusta]

Sounds like people at school need to pay more attention. Maybe this other kid is the one with the problem. If things are cool at home, and people comment on how good your kids are, seems strange for a 180 turn at school. Anyone talk to this kid or his parents to find out whats going at that end?

This only seems to happen during lunch.

So she said "I went to get them out of the lunchroom", does that mean they where in there unattended?

You missed the part about monitors in the lunchroom.

 

[dkf]

Maybe the teacher should talk with Melvio and Jeff seperately and see what the situation is. Do the teachers think your son is going to get a pissed off look on his face and go choking someone for no reason? There little kids and the teachers are supposed to be educated adults they should be able to figure out whats going on.

 

[BEELZEBOB]

My kindergarten teacher told my mom that I was the type of kid that would one day be running from the Police, and when they said, "STOP OR I'LL SHOOT!!" Id keep running.


she was a sour old hag

 

[PROTOTYPE]

This will be your fault why he does this. Its what the children see at home.

of course this world babies and caters to children . God forbid a kid gets slaped by his parents when he misbeahaves :twisted:. Now its called a time out .... :roll:

Kids cant even play dodgeball in school anymore. They are fag-a-tiezing kids these days . One reason why I dislike children and will not be having any.,

Good luck with your situation.

 

[athenscyclist]

One reason why I dislike children and will not be having any

"thumbsup" X2

 

[JasonInAugusta]

This will be your fault why he does this. Its what the children see at home.

of course this world babies and caters to children . God forbid a kid gets slaped by his parents when he misbeahaves :twisted:. Now its called a time out .... :roll:

Kids cant even play dodgeball in school anymore. They are fag-a-tiezing kids these days . One reason why I dislike children and will not be having any.,

Good luck with your situation.

Did you miss the part where Jeff slapped the kid because the kid slapped him?

 

[ROSS]

i think you need to tell the teacher to talk to melvio and then have her report back to you with his side of the story..

then tell the teacher what your boys side of the story is and come to some conclusion on how to resolve this conflict.

goodluck with it all.

 

[racerx]

Jeez Jason, Is that all he did? I thought you were gonna say you let him become the smelly kid in class. He hasn't been throwing sticks in front of rollerbladers has he?:twisted::twisted:

 

[PROTOTYPE]

Did you miss the part where Jeff slapped the kid because the kid slapped him?

I personally dont care what he did to your kid . The way this society babies children and it does not let parents raise there kids the way they want , you will be looked at as the parents in the wrong.

 

[microgoat]

Teach him a few street-fighting tricks and let him go to town on Melvio after school. That little bitch won't stand a chance.

 

[ROSS]

Teach him a few street-fighting tricks and let him go to town on Melvio after school. That little bitch won't stand a chance.

thats great
and so true

 

[crazy_kanaka]

I think your boy is cool. 8)

Back in the day my Pops told me that if you fight in school you're a pu$$y cause you know it'll get broken up. This is so true.

The last incident I remember occurring back in high school was with this short kid... a year younger than me. Out of the blue this kid comes up to me and calls me out. I say to him "what did I do to piss you off". He says "you know what you did". Now... while in high school I never got into a fight in school... only after school... otherwise my Pops would kick my a$$. So I start to thinking this kid thinks I'm a pu$$y. So I say to him "I can't fight you in school, but if you like I can meet you at Kalapaki." He said "shoots... after school then." So I go to my next class and my friend tells me "brah that kid just like act... he trying to impress his friends." I say "no worries... I no going hurt him to much." The day goes on and I'm in the last class... Then out of the blue a school councilor has me called into his office. When I get there he says to me that I have to call my father. He lets me use his telephone and leaves the office for me to have my privacy. On the phone I say "whats up dad... what you need." He says "I just got a call from a lawyer that represents a woman who claims that you're planning to hurt her son." I said "what the hell, this random kid comes up to me today and calls me out... I told him that I'd be happy to fight him after school." My Pops said "son you can't fight this kid, his lawyer threatens to take everything we got.. house and all." So the next day I get confronted by this kid again. He comes up to me and says "what you f**king pu$$y, how come you neva show up." I said "brah no talk sh!t, your lawyer had call my parents." Then this kid pushes me... and a second later his older brother steps in. The older brother says to the younger "brah you better cut it out, you embarrassing me... no go calling out somebody and then go call mom and cry for our lawyer to threaten them."
The whole crowd starts roll laughing at this kid. :lmao:

Still cracks me up when I think about it.
Memories....

 

[JasonInAugusta]

Teach him a few street-fighting tricks and let him go to town on Melvio after school. That little bitch won't stand a chance.

Isn't the first rule of street fighting "Throw them in the street"? :lol: