Desert Rc
I wanna be Dave
Thank you Juan. I appreciate it.
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Life is Short..don't wait..Enjot it, Live it. Love every minute.
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Paul,
Your family is in my prayers and I apologize for the long message I am about to write.
I will say sometimes there is comfort in knowing you're not alone.
I will take a moment and share the last few years of my life.
I currently 47, wife currently 45....
About 7 years ago the docs say she has cervical cancer. Not a big deal in today's medicine. A couple laser surgeries later they say she's as good as new!
Fast forward about - full year to her annual check up. It's back worse then the first time. They do laser surgery again but very soon after tell us it wasn't the fix this time around and she needed an emergency hysterectomy. We're old and have our children so it didn't seem much of a decision beyond life saving.
They however found more cancer then they expected and ended up taking all her ovaries too. (I guess they like to leave some ovaries to make the ride through menopause easier later on in life)
Some complications in healing but about 15 months later we actually had a great Summer.
Late that fall they find markers in her blood indicating cancer again.
They do a complete check and find its in her lymph nodes in left armpit and left breast. With family history of cancer and her own history, they recommend a complete double mastectomy and both breast removed. That was a bit tougher decision for her to make then the first surgery.
Completed within the next weeks time (they sure do not delay and move FAST!)
Sadly, she again has a LoT of complications healing. Infections on chest wall cavity, wound pumps, Jackson Pratt drains etc... This goes for almost a full year.
Just about in the clear she starts feeling sick. The same as she was each time from the infections in her chest surgery. Loss of appetite, bad fever etc... Except this time she couldn't even drink water without wanting to die in pain.
Back to the hospital. All weekend in ICU, test, test, doctor, tests, more doctors.... I think it was Tuesday of the next week a team of doctors come in and explain to us she has advanced stages of pancreatic cancer and show us all the scans & tests and explain the ins and outs and what to expect.
Within the next few days they had life counselors come spend time with us to help us cope and get our affairs in order for her soon to come passing.
And the days turned into weeks and she got weaker and weaker things came to bad times. The hospital was kind enough to agree to work up a plan to send her home for her last week or so to be comfortable at home with our children and family. It was the last day before we were ready to go home and were waiting on a home nurse to be assigned to stay with us 24/7 during her last week or so.
Family kept out kids through all this and I stayed bedside and slept in a recliner beside her bed every night.
I'm not a huge religious dude. I was raised Catholic and given the choice in my early teens to choose my own path. Admittedly I strayed from the church. My feelings are I know God exists, I love him and fear him both. I don't need a church to worship him or complete prayer. I still love and honor God, but I don't like the commercialism that goes along with it all.
Sorry getting off track.
Anyhow, as much as anyone can stray from God in their lives, you quickly find yourself in daily prayer in situations like this.
The last night before we were ready to go home it was about 3:00AM and I feel a hand on my shoulder. I look back and its 2 of her doctors with a stack of papers on hand.
They want a couple more tests before she goes home and need signatures otherwise insurance won't pay. (Huh, go figure). I say can't we just quit with all the tests already and just let her be.
He explains that if they do this some sort of test on her before she leaves and perform it again after she passes away it will help them in great bounds towards learning the cure for pancreatic cancer. Tears rolling down my cheeks I sign the papers. Less then 15 minutes later in the mid hours of the night they come wheel her and her bed out yet again for more tests.
About an hour later they bring her back.
Around 7:00 that same morning they come back for her again, and back and our again and back again, I don't think her bed sat idle until noon time that day.
We are now past the 1:00PM time when we were supposed to be going home.
The rest of that day was test after test.
Around midnight that night I am just starting to doze off in the chair and I feel a hand on my shoulder again. Same doctors with more papers. I already think to myself NO WAY, enough is enough.
He hands me the stack, I push it back at him in hand.
Its dark and shadowy in the room but I see him motion me out to the hall as he pulls me by the wrist a little.
Into the hall we go where he tells me to keep these papers as they are the new results of the past days testing.
He then explains that he is of course a doctor and is bound by his medical beliefs but he often sees things he can't explain. He tells me that a person as myself would even consider them miracles.
He then goes on to explain that her pancreatic cancer is GONE!
They can't find a trace of it in CAT scans, MRI's, ultra sounds or her blood work.
3 days later we leave the hospital and have been home here living just as you say in the title of your thread enjoying and thankful for every minute.
Life is short.... But I can vouch that miracles DO happen.
Docs still can't explain it, and we don't want an explanation.
Some friends and family say they misdiagnosed her originally.
That would be a LOT of incorrect testing that ALL came out incorrect if it was.... I highly doubt it.
Wife and I just prefer to stick with miracle as explanation.
Don't give up hope, every day brings a new sunrise. Life is not set in stone, what can be one day, can easily be unexplained different the next.
You're all in my prayers.... Be well & God Bless
Sorry for the long novel, but wanted to let you know you're not alone
Feel free to drop me a PM anytime if you want to talk
Joe
.
Your family is in my prayers and I apologize for the long message I am about to write.
I will say sometimes there is comfort in knowing you're not alone.
I will take a moment and share the last few years of my life.
I currently 47, wife currently 45....
About 7 years ago the docs say she has cervical cancer. Not a big deal in today's medicine. A couple laser surgeries later they say she's as good as new!
Fast forward about - full year to her annual check up. It's back worse then the first time. They do laser surgery again but very soon after tell us it wasn't the fix this time around and she needed an emergency hysterectomy. We're old and have our children so it didn't seem much of a decision beyond life saving.
They however found more cancer then they expected and ended up taking all her ovaries too. (I guess they like to leave some ovaries to make the ride through menopause easier later on in life)
Some complications in healing but about 15 months later we actually had a great Summer.
Late that fall they find markers in her blood indicating cancer again.
They do a complete check and find its in her lymph nodes in left armpit and left breast. With family history of cancer and her own history, they recommend a complete double mastectomy and both breast removed. That was a bit tougher decision for her to make then the first surgery.
Completed within the next weeks time (they sure do not delay and move FAST!)
Sadly, she again has a LoT of complications healing. Infections on chest wall cavity, wound pumps, Jackson Pratt drains etc... This goes for almost a full year.
Just about in the clear she starts feeling sick. The same as she was each time from the infections in her chest surgery. Loss of appetite, bad fever etc... Except this time she couldn't even drink water without wanting to die in pain.
Back to the hospital. All weekend in ICU, test, test, doctor, tests, more doctors.... I think it was Tuesday of the next week a team of doctors come in and explain to us she has advanced stages of pancreatic cancer and show us all the scans & tests and explain the ins and outs and what to expect.
Within the next few days they had life counselors come spend time with us to help us cope and get our affairs in order for her soon to come passing.
And the days turned into weeks and she got weaker and weaker things came to bad times. The hospital was kind enough to agree to work up a plan to send her home for her last week or so to be comfortable at home with our children and family. It was the last day before we were ready to go home and were waiting on a home nurse to be assigned to stay with us 24/7 during her last week or so.
Family kept out kids through all this and I stayed bedside and slept in a recliner beside her bed every night.
I'm not a huge religious dude. I was raised Catholic and given the choice in my early teens to choose my own path. Admittedly I strayed from the church. My feelings are I know God exists, I love him and fear him both. I don't need a church to worship him or complete prayer. I still love and honor God, but I don't like the commercialism that goes along with it all.
Sorry getting off track.
Anyhow, as much as anyone can stray from God in their lives, you quickly find yourself in daily prayer in situations like this.
The last night before we were ready to go home it was about 3:00AM and I feel a hand on my shoulder. I look back and its 2 of her doctors with a stack of papers on hand.
They want a couple more tests before she goes home and need signatures otherwise insurance won't pay. (Huh, go figure). I say can't we just quit with all the tests already and just let her be.
He explains that if they do this some sort of test on her before she leaves and perform it again after she passes away it will help them in great bounds towards learning the cure for pancreatic cancer. Tears rolling down my cheeks I sign the papers. Less then 15 minutes later in the mid hours of the night they come wheel her and her bed out yet again for more tests.
About an hour later they bring her back.
Around 7:00 that same morning they come back for her again, and back and our again and back again, I don't think her bed sat idle until noon time that day.
We are now past the 1:00PM time when we were supposed to be going home.
The rest of that day was test after test.
Around midnight that night I am just starting to doze off in the chair and I feel a hand on my shoulder again. Same doctors with more papers. I already think to myself NO WAY, enough is enough.
He hands me the stack, I push it back at him in hand.
Its dark and shadowy in the room but I see him motion me out to the hall as he pulls me by the wrist a little.
Into the hall we go where he tells me to keep these papers as they are the new results of the past days testing.
He then explains that he is of course a doctor and is bound by his medical beliefs but he often sees things he can't explain. He tells me that a person as myself would even consider them miracles.
He then goes on to explain that her pancreatic cancer is GONE!
They can't find a trace of it in CAT scans, MRI's, ultra sounds or her blood work.
3 days later we leave the hospital and have been home here living just as you say in the title of your thread enjoying and thankful for every minute.
Life is short.... But I can vouch that miracles DO happen.
Docs still can't explain it, and we don't want an explanation.
Some friends and family say they misdiagnosed her originally.
That would be a LOT of incorrect testing that ALL came out incorrect if it was.... I highly doubt it.
Wife and I just prefer to stick with miracle as explanation.
Don't give up hope, every day brings a new sunrise. Life is not set in stone, what can be one day, can easily be unexplained different the next.
You're all in my prayers.... Be well & God Bless
Sorry for the long novel, but wanted to let you know you're not alone
Feel free to drop me a PM anytime if you want to talk
Joe
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Desert Rc
I wanna be Dave
Hey Joe, I was hanging out with my wife Tami late last night sleepy as heck it had been 4am she was being kept up by her pain. I was so tired but that is such an amazing story. You are blessed in every sense of the word. I was laughing inside with all the test and the constant bothering, my wife was i tears this morning with frustration. Getting vitals every 30 min it seems, before the surgery they seemed to be taking more blood every 30 min, I thought what was the point of the blood transfusion if you just keep,taking it back....lol. Point is that these things never seem fair and often you can't see the light anywhere in sight. But your story proves we have to keep moving forward and be stronger than anything we face. We still choose our attitude and reaction.
Tami has been quite miserable. They took there catheter out and the snotty nurse said make sure your trying to go every 30 min now. tami can hardly move from the pain and was not a reasonable request. Then the nurse said well that's what your going to have to do unless you like catheters put back in.
Honestly for the most part the staff has been amazing, supportive, loving, and walked her through every step of the way. No biggie.
I was going to try and go back to work today but I cant leave her like this. She is miserable and cries at the drop of a hat....and she definitely is not normally like that. Plus I've got maybe 5 hrs of sleep in the last two days. It will all pass.
Tami has been quite miserable. They took there catheter out and the snotty nurse said make sure your trying to go every 30 min now. tami can hardly move from the pain and was not a reasonable request. Then the nurse said well that's what your going to have to do unless you like catheters put back in.
Honestly for the most part the staff has been amazing, supportive, loving, and walked her through every step of the way. No biggie.
I was going to try and go back to work today but I cant leave her like this. She is miserable and cries at the drop of a hat....and she definitely is not normally like that. Plus I've got maybe 5 hrs of sleep in the last two days. It will all pass.
THUNDER PRO
Quarry Creeper
Stay strong brother,the and good luck ,your higher power has set a path for you to follow. Now go forth and overcome.
bayareaaxial
RCC Addict
I think you still got my number, I'm not much for brainstorming as I have little of one left but....... I have a an ear for shooting the she!t . Keep your head up
Paul,
Thank you for sharing. This community, as brash as we can be sometimes, is a band of brothers & sisters. Me against my brother, my brother and I against you type of thing is what I see. If there were a rope to grab onto and to pull your wife to safety there isn't one fellow/family that wouldn't latch onto it and give it everything they have. You have my prayers, I can't even begin to imagine what you and your family has been through. I've always felt that we never come up against something that we can't handle. I do know that humor makes things better and some folks think it can heal too. Keep your chin up and if you ever feel down just close your eyes and envision all of us knuckleheads standing in front of you in a semi-circle cheering you all on. Just when you don't want to take that next step or see the reason to is exactly when you HAVE to take it and keep on going. Your wife's/family's story is an inspiration to me to keep on chugging in life... thank you.
Thank you for sharing. This community, as brash as we can be sometimes, is a band of brothers & sisters. Me against my brother, my brother and I against you type of thing is what I see. If there were a rope to grab onto and to pull your wife to safety there isn't one fellow/family that wouldn't latch onto it and give it everything they have. You have my prayers, I can't even begin to imagine what you and your family has been through. I've always felt that we never come up against something that we can't handle. I do know that humor makes things better and some folks think it can heal too. Keep your chin up and if you ever feel down just close your eyes and envision all of us knuckleheads standing in front of you in a semi-circle cheering you all on. Just when you don't want to take that next step or see the reason to is exactly when you HAVE to take it and keep on going. Your wife's/family's story is an inspiration to me to keep on chugging in life... thank you.
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You, your wife and your whole family are in our prayers. You definitely are not alone brother. Tragedy strikes the best of people sometimes. Life is unfair. Stay strong my friend.
Desert Rc
I wanna be Dave
Well that got tears....really. Thanks so much. I'm definitely a believer in the healing power of humor as I know God does as well. It's extremely odd that I felt more comfortable posting this here than anywhere or even talk to anyone, Facebook ect. It just goes to show how much I value and love this community.
It's been tough couple days just with caring for Tami and trying to hold it together. The forum has been the my retreat and stability feature.
I really can't say enough to thank you off your love and support. I'm usually the kind of person who really doesn't share this kind of stuff. But this was just too much. It still hurts of course but I'm taking one day at a time and trying to keep my wife smiling.
Even as ugly as this seems I still feel in my heart everything happens for a reason. I will regroup, stay positive, and move forward.
MAVERICKJK
Pebble Pounder
Paul,
May the good Lord's blessings be with you and your family. I pray your wife comes through this.
Joe, continued prayers for you as well.
Makes me reevaluate extending my tasker here in the sandbox....
May the good Lord's blessings be with you and your family. I pray your wife comes through this.
Joe, continued prayers for you as well.
Makes me reevaluate extending my tasker here in the sandbox....
Very true, as seen time and time again that when it comes to serious stuff there is everyone on one side. ...dont forget about the few sisters, you see Jess(Del Montes) always here to give support as our RCC Registered Ninja..on here "thumbsup""thumbsup"
boom stick
Rock Stacker
This post is so true. I'm reading this in a hospital. I sitting here looking at my son in his hospital bed sleeping so peacefully. He is 6 and tomorrow he's going I for his 22nd surgery. Life is not fair some times. Some days it's sucks. But you have keeping going for your self and the rest of the family. I wish you and the rest of the family best of luck.
Red Rockcrawler
Trying to have Fun Again
Stay strong for your wife. I just lost my father in-law to stage 4 pancreatic cancer after less than a year fight in october. I just lost my aunt 3 weeks ago to cancer and blood clots. She had breast cancer and was cleared for a couple of years. Then it popped back up 3 weeks ago and took her life.
I hope that your wife comes out free and clear.
I hope that your wife comes out free and clear.
gearhead79
Quarry Creeper
Sending prayers your way from me and the fiance!!!!!!!! We hope your wife recovers quick and kick's cancer's a#$
Desert Rc
I wanna be Dave
Appreciate all the prayers....she had surgery and got that stuff out. Now we wait to see how bad, in lymph nodes ect. We should know Friday. She was supposed to go home weds and she is already out. She is a strong cookie. I know that she can do this. She is in a lot of pain and grumpy but we Are ok.
Hoyta
Quarry Creeper
Keep your head up brother! She is on the prayer list at church. I couldn't imagine being in your situation
Desert Rc
I wanna be Dave
Well the hits keep coming...right as Im walking out the door to work the doctor call with the news 3 days early that it has moved into the lymph nodes and is stage 3....the doctors will contact us on the next steps.
Going to be a tough work day....trying to smile and be positive.
Going to be a tough work day....trying to smile and be positive.
