Desert Rc
I wanna be Dave
A week ago I got a call from my wife....she was having extremely bad stomach pains. I was at work and leaving is always a hassle to my higher ups. I'm a car sales professional and they all but feel they own you and your time. Therefore I told her I would call her back in 5min and get an update, also see if I could get outta there.
When I called back she was already driving herself to the hospital. When I soon Met her there and Tami's face was damp with tears. She has dealt with stomach issues and complications from having type1 childhood diabeties her whole life. So naturally I figured it had to do with the "normal" for us. She has had diabeties for over 20 years and now is only 30 years old. But I have been with her all the way through all the ups and downs. There're have been plenty especially when we had our beautiful only child Joslin...she is almost three. It took several operations just to get her eyes and other stuff "right" after her birth. It's been a tough road to say the least.
So as I sat there my mind reeled. What could this be now. We just started to feel like I was getting on top of the medical bills. Not that it matters but it's part of this life nonetheless. As she sat there all I could do is hold her and tell her everything will be okay.
Within the next couple hours we were finally brought back to a ER room. After a few tests they came back with the conclusion.
Tami was extremely anemic. She was loosing blood somewhere. She had some stomach issues but to be honest we hadn't had it checked for several months. She just started a new job with the hospital that we were in for Medical billing department, and insurance aphid had yet to kick in.
The doctors told us that he is shocked that she walked in let alone drove herself down to the hospital. She currently had 4.5 units of blood when the Normal person has between 14.5 to 15 units. She shouldn't have even been able to walk let alone drive. They told us that her heart would have went into failure within 6-10days....her heart was working very hard to circulate what little blood she had left. They then did a blood transfusion and it was supposed to bring her up to about a stable 8-9. After monitoring for two-3 hours they sent us home at 2:30am.
Withing 5 hours of being home the pain meds wore off and the pains had came back 10fold. She was crippled with wrenching pain. Back down to the hospital we went.
We have been in the hospital now for a week. After many many blood tests, scans, and scope tests, the doctors told us the worst possible news. She has Cancer. I can't tell you the flood of emotions. She is only 30 years old...The thoughts of our beautiful 2 yr old. A life without my beautiful wife. Why is life so unfair. I've been riding this roller coaster now for the last 3-4 days and it sucks. I go from positive and everything is going to be okay to very dark places.
At 5am this morning we showed back up at the hospital after a rough night of preparing and cleansing for surgery. The cancer is stage 2 maybe 3. The surgery is urgent and they will cut out her colon. We won't know till it's out and and they can test it to see what we are facing next. If it's spread to the lymph nodes it's stage three and then we start Chemo and radiation.
I ponder, What will our life be like. Is this a test to bring us closer and realize the importance of spending time toghether, or will it just get worse as far as the news. I don't even want to think of the no insurance situation. We don't qualify for the awesome obamah care bc of my recent Christmas bonuses. I dunno I'm guess I'm panicked all around...on every level imaginable.
Why am I writing this. I'm contimplating what life is about. It's about being simple, making enough to live, and spending as much time with my family as possible.
I consider this forum my second happy home if you will as strange as that seems. I know I don't know you all personally but I look to this place for smiles. When things are tough and I need a release from the pressures of the work this hobby and site sustains me. I true lye believe a lot of people don't have this kind of healthy release.
I love this hobby more then any other outlet in my life. I want to start a simpler life producing products and distribution of scale crawler goods for us. I have aligned myself with some great folks. I have some great ideas to take a few things to the next level. I am and will start a transition of my life away from my 60hr job grind and start to develope a path to something that I love and start to spend more time with my family. This is all I can think about. I have already started the steps and planing.
I will take classes, learn, and develope to bring the best I can bring. As I write this I would love to have anyone to talk to. Anyone to help guide me in the right direction in the development, brainstorming, production, design or just ideas. Or just to talk. I will need help. And anything somebody can help with as far as connections or just what not to do I would dearly appreciate it.
I know I'm not the only one to ever do this. I just know one thing. My heart is in the right place and I love this community and want to contribute. I want to grow with this great community.
Much love
Paul Whalen (Desert RC)
When I called back she was already driving herself to the hospital. When I soon Met her there and Tami's face was damp with tears. She has dealt with stomach issues and complications from having type1 childhood diabeties her whole life. So naturally I figured it had to do with the "normal" for us. She has had diabeties for over 20 years and now is only 30 years old. But I have been with her all the way through all the ups and downs. There're have been plenty especially when we had our beautiful only child Joslin...she is almost three. It took several operations just to get her eyes and other stuff "right" after her birth. It's been a tough road to say the least.
So as I sat there my mind reeled. What could this be now. We just started to feel like I was getting on top of the medical bills. Not that it matters but it's part of this life nonetheless. As she sat there all I could do is hold her and tell her everything will be okay.
Within the next couple hours we were finally brought back to a ER room. After a few tests they came back with the conclusion.
Tami was extremely anemic. She was loosing blood somewhere. She had some stomach issues but to be honest we hadn't had it checked for several months. She just started a new job with the hospital that we were in for Medical billing department, and insurance aphid had yet to kick in.
The doctors told us that he is shocked that she walked in let alone drove herself down to the hospital. She currently had 4.5 units of blood when the Normal person has between 14.5 to 15 units. She shouldn't have even been able to walk let alone drive. They told us that her heart would have went into failure within 6-10days....her heart was working very hard to circulate what little blood she had left. They then did a blood transfusion and it was supposed to bring her up to about a stable 8-9. After monitoring for two-3 hours they sent us home at 2:30am.
Withing 5 hours of being home the pain meds wore off and the pains had came back 10fold. She was crippled with wrenching pain. Back down to the hospital we went.
We have been in the hospital now for a week. After many many blood tests, scans, and scope tests, the doctors told us the worst possible news. She has Cancer. I can't tell you the flood of emotions. She is only 30 years old...The thoughts of our beautiful 2 yr old. A life without my beautiful wife. Why is life so unfair. I've been riding this roller coaster now for the last 3-4 days and it sucks. I go from positive and everything is going to be okay to very dark places.
At 5am this morning we showed back up at the hospital after a rough night of preparing and cleansing for surgery. The cancer is stage 2 maybe 3. The surgery is urgent and they will cut out her colon. We won't know till it's out and and they can test it to see what we are facing next. If it's spread to the lymph nodes it's stage three and then we start Chemo and radiation.
I ponder, What will our life be like. Is this a test to bring us closer and realize the importance of spending time toghether, or will it just get worse as far as the news. I don't even want to think of the no insurance situation. We don't qualify for the awesome obamah care bc of my recent Christmas bonuses. I dunno I'm guess I'm panicked all around...on every level imaginable.
Why am I writing this. I'm contimplating what life is about. It's about being simple, making enough to live, and spending as much time with my family as possible.
I consider this forum my second happy home if you will as strange as that seems. I know I don't know you all personally but I look to this place for smiles. When things are tough and I need a release from the pressures of the work this hobby and site sustains me. I true lye believe a lot of people don't have this kind of healthy release.
I love this hobby more then any other outlet in my life. I want to start a simpler life producing products and distribution of scale crawler goods for us. I have aligned myself with some great folks. I have some great ideas to take a few things to the next level. I am and will start a transition of my life away from my 60hr job grind and start to develope a path to something that I love and start to spend more time with my family. This is all I can think about. I have already started the steps and planing.
I will take classes, learn, and develope to bring the best I can bring. As I write this I would love to have anyone to talk to. Anyone to help guide me in the right direction in the development, brainstorming, production, design or just ideas. Or just to talk. I will need help. And anything somebody can help with as far as connections or just what not to do I would dearly appreciate it.
I know I'm not the only one to ever do this. I just know one thing. My heart is in the right place and I love this community and want to contribute. I want to grow with this great community.
Much love
Paul Whalen (Desert RC)
